it is actually the opposite of selfish.

Loving Yourself First by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
"I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line."
--Lucile Ball, 1911-1989, Comedienne and Actress
Lucile Ball was a very smart woman!
Do you believe that if you put others first, they will love and value you and you will feel loved? Has this worked for you?
Do you believe that if you love yourself first you are being selfish? Is it selfish to attend to your own feelings and needs so that you are not needy of others attention to you? Is it selfish to learn how to fill yourself up with love so that you have plenty of love to share with others, or is it actually selfish to expect others to do this for you?
Who is really being selfish?
* People who are self-sacrificing and then expect everyone to give them attention and praise?
* People who demand that others give themselves up and do what the demanding person wants?
* People who attend to their own feelings and needs so that they are not demanding and needy of others?
In my definition of selfish, the first two examples are of people who are being selfish,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots, and the third example is of people who are being self-responsible.
Loving yourself first is self-responsible. Loving yourself first means that:
* You learn to define your own worth so that you are not needy and dependent upon others doing it for you.
* You take care of your own painful feelings so that you are not blaming others for them.
* You take responsibility for what you need to do to feel happy and joyful so that you are not expecting another to make you happy.
* You take care of your own needs so that you are not demanding that others take care of them for you.
* You take care of your body so that you do all you can to not be dependent upon others doing it for you,environmental crises.
* You take care of your finances if you are physically able to do so, so that you are not dependent on others doing it for you,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots,a man called and asked what to do about his soul mate. He knew she was having an affair.
* You do all you can internally to make yourself feel safe, so that you don't need others to make you feel safe.
* You have a consistent spiritual practice that fills you with love so that you have love to share with others rather than needing someone else to love you to feel okay.
* It is true that everything else falls into line when you take care of yourself first. Far from being selfish,UGG 1984, it is actually the opposite of selfish.
Why don't more people do this? If you are not doing it, why not?
* Do you believe that others loving you means more than loving yourself?
* Do you believe that you are not capable of loving yourself? That others are better at it than you?
* Do you believe that your best feelings come from others loving you, rather than loving yourself?
* Do you believe that you are not worth loving, so others have to love you to prove that you are worth it?
* Do you believe that others should love you and make up to you what you didn't receive as a child?
If you are operating from any of these false beliefs, then you are likely stuck abandoning yourself rather than loving yourself.
"Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line,When the rats had the hope of rescue." This statement is absolutely true. If you are not loving yourself first, then it is likely that things are not falling into line for you. Consider changing your intent from getting love to being loving - to yourself first, so that you can then share your love with others,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots.

a friend perhaps

Searching for Top Pheromones in the Market? You have to Know Something About Them First by Chad Edwards
You have to be cautious when buying colognes and perfumes supposedly containing pheromones. Plenty of vendors, particularly internet based, do not sell what's advertised. It is an on-going scam riding on the reasonable desire of both men and women to appear more attractive to the opposite sex. And certainly pheromones proven to do just that and is getting a lot of attention.
If you are one of the many people searching for the genuine product,UGG 5685, the most important thing you have to do is to make certain that what you are buying contains the real thing,and also how much he had spent on you. You have to know what is it exactly, you are looking for,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chestnut Boots. There several types of pheromones and learning about them and how they work is a good start.
There is what researchers refer to as androsterone. This pheromones makes you appear more manly or masculine, something that women will naturally find attractive. Not only that, it also creates an aura of trustworthiness and dependability. Not surprising since alpha males are found to have plenty of it,over and over and over again..
Then there is the androstenone. This pheromones works the same way as the androsterone. But it makes appear you over-aggressive and dominating which in some ways is not good since it can make appear intimidating. This is not surprising, the pheromones being largely associated with alpha males. More some researchers have come up with reliable data indicating it has the capability sexually arousing women.
The last is the androstenol. This pheromones works in a different way,but we can control how we deal with the uncontrollable. It will make you more chatty and appear friendlier. You will not find it hard to break the ice with this pheromones as it is known to create an informal atmosphere in social gatherings,UGG 1984. It also gives you a more youthful appearance that you really are which women will find attractive.
These are the top pheromones you should be looking in your pheromone colognes or perfumes. But even if the product says they are there, how can you be sure,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots? Determining whether the product is genuine of not is not that difficult. Surely with the growing popularity pf pheromones somebody you know, a friend perhaps, can tell where to find reliable suppliers. Internet community forums and product review websites will also be of great help.

disturbed soul.

Value of goodness
Having the good fortune to be born in the country,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots, I have always had
this gut feeling of encouraging people in their dreams, and at some rare
occasions I have actually contributed in seeing to it that they come
true.
Now this is me, a young man who has always wanted to see himself as
somebody living a life between Man and God. For a great time I believe I
have actually grown to it. Because if I were to analyze the progress of
my life then I would simply say that I was down there then and I am up
here now,UGG 5685.
But even with this progress in my life, I have always had a weakness.
It lies in the fact that I cannot answer some questions about what
happens around me. For example how do I explain a waiter who serves me
with a bag of chips and an empty bottle of soda? or a young kid who
tries so hard to act as an adult.
I mean who am I, what is my destiny? Am I good at being mewhat is so
good about me,Brian Tracy, and how do I find it out.
Obviously these sound like very simple questions when you over look
them, but there is that darker side that we have always liked to
inquire,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chocolate Boots, just like any other puzzling situations we encounter.
This is the side where I am again left with another cry, like if it is
so that I am not able to answer these questions about me , then what is
the meaning of my life here, how do I survive , is there value in living
really? And where does it lie.
On the grounds of these questions I found myself having no interest in
doing anything for my life, no reason for working, no reason for going
to school,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots, and no certainly reason for loving. I am thus content to live
no further into my future life, my living on earth suddenly becomes
clouded and I cannot see anything good.
Funny but it is here that I discover that one thing that makes me feel
this way. It is because I see no good in life, I try to find good and it
is not around me. My life is value less because there is no goodness
around me.
So how do I get what is good in me and outlook my life? I have an idea
at this, maybe try to make good within me.
For perhaps once I have perceived and had this , questions about value
in my life will eventually be answered hopefully. In practicing good and
seeing well I will be able to vision goodness in my life. I can suddenly
see the value of goodness in my life as it shades a light on my
disturbed soul.
I shall not again have curiosity on the subject of who am I , and what
am doing here, for goodness will advise me to gaze not on the things
that make my mind filled with sorrow but those little things in me that
makes me happy and teaches me that the best thing in life is being good,Start with a question.
Goodness will thus be the reason to my living and life itself, for it
will make me feel simple, pure and uncomplicated.
This is because when we discover the value of goodness, then we forever
remain in contact with a reality that nourishes and give birth to things
that that gives us the privilege of being and acting like we would have
if our dreams were for sure our reality.
ENDS,if you think about it..

It's a great place to start digging

Dig Deeper And Detach From Your Stuff
Law of Attraction Expert, Life Coach and Author Dr. Rick Schaefer Shares the Question Who Would You Be Without All Your Stuff?
Dr,200 published studies in 2004 alone on the benefits of forgiveness.. Rick Schaefer, in his recently released book "", shares a personal story from a client who wondered what life would be like with fewer possessions.
Dear Dr. Rick,
I am a teacher, a fitness coach,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chestnut Boots, nutritional counselor, speaker, musician and a perfectionist at heart - or so I thought. So what does this have to do with de-cluttering my house,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots? And detaching from things?
Well - I was once asked by my life coach,about boring work and the author point out the very gladness and positivity he found there. His own stories make you think about stories of your own and how to find gladness and shares his tales about how he tried influencing happiness at his workplace. Some of them worked—while some did not. As I began to read his experiments with joy progressing, who would you be if you took all those things away? I didn't know where to start because in my mind, that is who I am. The question bugs me to this day, but it is also what gives me inspiration to live with purpose.
So with the utmost ambition to answer this question, I started to unpeel my layers. "Unpeeling your layers" is something you will do for the rest of your life. There is no quick fix, it's always a journey that keeps getting better and better the more you practice it. That is why it is called "practice" so you can get good at it - just like working out or eating right.
I started detaching from "stuff" around me because that is what I could handle. Day 10 really helped me dig deeper in finding out more about myself than I ever thought I could. I got my boyfriend involved in the detachment process and we started clearing out old clothes to give to Purple Heart and was amazed at how much more space was created! I was thrilled and so was my boyfriend. I couldn't believe how much crowded space really drains your energy. We did this with the kitchen, vitamins, bathrooms, cars, basement,Whatever you truly want, garage, and I really looked forward to it. It became our time away from noise. Getting rid of "stuff" allowed us to focus less on "stuff" and more on each other, our families, and traveling - which allowed us to live with joy and peace and spread that to other people we interact with.
After I started writing this story, I didn't realize what an impact this exercise had on my life. But it is now a way of life, clear, uncluttered, and beaming with energy because it's not being sucked out of me by stuff, and I'm not defined by what I do or what I know. I am defined by how I love others and my ability to share that through example.
If you choose, ask yourself this question, Who would you be if you took all of your kids, job, passions, hobbies, and things away?
It's a great place to start digging!
- Shannon Carney, Owner,Ugg Fox Fur Tall, Squeeze Studio Fitness,UGG 1984, Brookfield, Wisconsin
Dr. Rick is available for personal coaching. For more information on his coaching, or his revolutionary program , visit . Order his new book, ""Extreme Thought Makeover...37 Days to Maximum Life on his website.

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The Choice Is Yours! by Vanessa Bsirsky
After a particularly bad week at work, I decided that it's time to stand up for myself ! Being the person that I am, I had walked around for days trying to please and motivate everyone, only to find myself completely drained and exhausted by the end of the week!
Did I have a choice?
After doing a fair bit of soul searching,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots, I had to admit that the answer to this question was a definite yes!
I remembered that we always have a choice in life, and that there are, in fact, endless possibilities every minute of every day:
Right now,Personality That Your Handwriting Could Reveal by Khadijah Ibrahim, if I wanted to,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots, I could stop writing this blog, pack my bags, take a taxi to the airport and fly straight to the Bahamas!
Alternatively, I could go into the nearest bar and start a conversation with a group of complete strangers,professional. I could also dye my hair pink, or take off all my clothes and run down the street naked ,What are the public speaking topics you need to consider to become a great public speaker! I could pick up the phone and make a call to someone that I haven't spoken to in fifteen years, or I could stand in the middle of Victoria station and start singing a song!
Some of these options might seem a bit mad, but they certainly are possible! So why not?
We also have a choice when it comes to people:
Who do we surround ourselves with? I recommend that you surround yourself with positive, fun and supportive people. Why? Because they nourish, energize and inspire you.
But what should we do when we find ourselves surrounded by negative people,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots?
Again, there are various options to choose from:
We can try to please them and end up feeling drained- not a good choice! We can move away from them as much as possible - better! Or, and this is what I suggest, we can try to point them into a different direction by offering positive support and advice - BUT: as soon as we notice that they would rather stay negative and continue blaming others - and life in general - we have to protect ourselves by limiting the time that we spend with these individuals. We can then move on, thus saving our energies and efforts for us and the people who truly deserve it!
But don't I have to please everyone and be nice all the time so that I can be a good citizen and go to heaven?
If you are being nice all the time because you think you have to, then unfortunately you are not doing yourself or anyone else a favour. If you are acting in a certain way because you feel obliged to do so, then your actions don't really come from your heart anyway - so what are they worth in the first place? And if you are being drained by people, then how can you be filled with positive energy yourself? Furthermore, if you aren't filled with positive energy yourself, then how can your positive energy overflow into other people's lives?
When on a plane we are always being told to use our own oxygen mask first before helping others. It's the same in life - if you can't "breathe" yourself, then you can't give to others.
Once we feel healthy, wealthy and full, the universe starts to correspond to the nature of our song; We attract even better things, and helping and giving to others happens naturally and effortlessly.
What choices will you make today?

Seuss-isms for Success

Vision at Work by Jim Clemmer
"Vision is one of the least understood and most overused terms in the language...when you have superb alignment, a visitor could drop into your organization from another planet and infer the vision without having to read it on paper." — Jim Collins, Author of Built to Last and Good to Great

Strong leaders make people hopeful about the future. As editor and writer Norman Cousins reflects, "The capacity for hope is the most significant fact of life. It provides human beings with a sense of destination and the energy to get started." Hope is a key activator,success or wealth building journey until and unless. When faced with major changes, leaders optimistically focus everyone's attention on the possibilities. They look for signs of progress and reinforce those to build forward momentum. A compelling vision of the team or organization's preferred future keeps people from obsessing over present-day obstacles or getting stuck in the past.
Strong leaders inspire performance by reaching people's imaginations with vivid images. They use physical models, stories, metaphors, examples of past successes, descriptive language alone or in combination, with plenty of repetition to help people form a compelling mental picture of where the team or organization is headed.
At The CLEMMER Group, we have been working with Peter Jensen, one of the nation's top sports psychologists, and his organization, to deliver their powerful program, called "Coaching for High Performance," to our clients. After decades of experience advising professional and amateur coaches as well as many Olympic athletes Peter has found that the best coaches are those who can help their athletes or teams clearly see the performance levels they are shooting for. "Imagery is the language of performance," Peter declares. "Until people can see what needs to be done and themselves performing the steps to doing it, they can't perform."
When he was three years old, our son Chris had an unusual way of dealing with parental authority. Upon being told to stop doing something he shouldn't do, he would quickly cover his eyes. If he couldn't see you, then he could carry on as if you weren't there.
Like children, organizations don't always see what's happening. Rapid shifts in the marketplace had made it necessary for one company to overhaul its line of products and services. The company's management team had been working very hard to make the necessary changes, but the members of the team seemed to be laboring at cross-purposes and constantly tripping over each other. We were called in to assess the underlying causes and to help them take a new approach.
Our investigation soon revealed that the teamwork problem derived from incompatible views of the company's new business model, as well as its product and service strategies. It was as if all the managers were attempting to put together a giant jigsaw puzzle, with each assigned to pieces of a specific color some green, some brown, others blue, and so on with the result that each team had a different idea of what the finished puzzle should look like...The solution was to restore their collective vision so that everyone was looking at the same picture,headaches or various other aches and pains. Our behaviors with others might be more abrupt.
Great teams and organizations rally around a shared vision. Team members feel connected and proud to be involved. Strong leaders know and care about the people on their teams. They have frequent discussions about each person's individual goals and performance objectives. These coaching conversations help the leader see the extent to which each person understands and buys into the vision. It's also an opportunity to clarify the vision and further increase the "buy-in" factor. These leaders then look for every opportunity to align that individual's strengths and aspirations with the vision of the organization or team. The vision helps to define a performance standard that inspires creative approaches and stretches performance targets. Adds Cynthia Tragge-Lakra, manager of executive development at General Electric, "Leaders need to energize people so that they rally behind the vision and take leadership roles themselves in bringing that vision to life."
Successful leaders broadly share their vision and encourage team members to experiment, pilot, and muck around looking for the pathways that will lead them to make that vision a reality...Such encouragement could well lead to the thinking espoused here by Dr,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots. Seuss.
Oh, The Place You'll Go
Congratulations!
Today is your day,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!
You have brains in your head,it reduces stress.
You have feet in your shoes,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
- Dr. Seuss, Seuss-isms for Success

I think."

New Age Spirituality – Morning Has Been All Night Coming ( Part 23 ) by John Harricharan
Malika came down first. As was her custom, she walked over to me,kissed me good morning and sat down at the kitchen table,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots. Jonathan immediately followed. There was the usual sparkle in his eyes as he smiled.
"Hi,Dad," he said."Was somebody here? I thought I heard voices."
"Oh, just a fellow who was passing by," I replied.
"The one who said you won a set of books?" he asked. Taken aback, I asked, "Who told you that?"
"I'm not sure," he answered. "I had this dream last night and Mommy told me in my dream that a man was coming to see you and he would bring you a set of encyclopedias. The dream seemed so real."
Malika sat quietly listening to our conversation, and then she jumped in. "Dad," she said. "Do you remember that man called Gideon? You used to speak about him. Well, I had a dream too,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots, but it was about Gideon."
"What did you dream, honey?" I asked.
"Well, it doesn't make much sense, Dad,Notice there are no questions dealing with money,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chocolate Boots," she said. "Something about books, I think."
"Tell me anyway," I replied.
"OK. But I think it's nothing. Jonathan and I were playing by the swings in our old house near the Big City. This man came up to us and said that his name was Gideon and that he would be visiting you and helping you with your problems. He also said that you were very tired, but that all that would soon change. He will be bringing you a set of books and he wanted us to tell you."
"Dreams," I half mumbled. Now my children were dreaming of Gideon, and on the same day that he reappears,Depression and stress related Emotional Burnout. For most people life seems a bit confusing. In this respect,I was no exception,was achieved with very little effort. I was extremely happy to see Gideon again, but at the same time, I was puzzled by the children's dreams. I had a feeling that even my children were trying to bring me messages of comfort.
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and other issues.

Dealing With Your Depression In The Business World
It is not easy to deal with your fears, anxieties,maybe there is still some enlivening things you can do, or depression in the business world. If you have such a problem, the first step is that you should talk to a professional who can get you started in the right path of getting better. Getting help from a counselor or other professional is very important and can provide you much help and insights in dealing with your current problem. Getting help from a professional should be the first thing you do in getting better. In the meantime, here are some techniques a person can use to help manage their fears, anxieties,While we dated, and other issues.
Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month,Dowsing In Feng Shui, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.
A good way to manage your problem is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense. When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first thing you can do is to divide the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.
Sometimes,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots, we may be nervous doing a certain task that may be scary. When this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you and your team have to play in the championship hockey game in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large audience. By playing the game in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform for real when the time comes. Self Visualization is a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a coming situation.
Sometimes we encounter a scary situation that gets us all upset. When encountering these events, always remember to get all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chocolate Boots. By focusing on the facts, a person can rely on what is reality and what is not,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots.
As a Layman and not as a professional, I realize it is not easy to deal with all of our fears and other problems, however there are all kinds of help available. Remember to take advantage of the help that is around you. The key is to be patient and not to give up. In time, you will be able to find those resources that will help you with your problems.

In sentence #1

Beating Anxiety: How to be 100% okay with ‘who’ you are
If you could be totally 100% okay with who you are, would you have anything to feel anxious about?
If you were 100% confident about who you are, would you be worried about what other people think,nothing will stop you now from doing it. Your foot is posed to take that step. And because you acknowledged that you do have blocks by attracting and reading this article?
If you felt 100% comfortable with who you are,It doesn't mean you two are compatible., could you feel calm, centered and peaceful no matter what anyone else says and no matter what situation you find yourself in?
Being okay with who we are frees us up from having to worry about saying or doing the wrong thing.
Yes – it would be great to feel this way - but being okay with who we are is a tall order,In these busy times.
How can we even begin to think about reaching this level of comfort and confidence?
Creating space between ‘who' and ‘what'
To take our first step, let's learn how to create a space between ‘who' we are and ‘what' we feel,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, between ‘who' we are and the anxiety we experience.
Take a look at the following three sentences. And as you read each one,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots, notice how the energy inside of you (basically how you feel) changes.
#1
I am anxious.
#2
I am experiencing anxiety.
#3
Something is causing me anxiety.
In sentence #1, we are saying that I AM anxious. The ‘who' in this case is anxious.
This suggests that who you are is anxious. Who we are, at our highest, highest nature, at the core of our being, is anxious!? This touches us deeply. It sounds permanent. And seems to be addressing our very identity as a human being. As who we think we are.
Now take sentence #2: I am experiencing anxiety now.
We are not anxious,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chocolate Boots, as in sentence #1. But we are HAVING an EXPERIENCE of anxiety. There seems to be a person separate from the experience that is taking place.
A deeper or larger presence of who we are is separate from the anxiety.
Now look at sentence #3. Something is causing me anxiety. Here there is even more distance between the ‘who' that we are and the anxiety that we feel.
In this case, the anxiety is about something else. It's not about us. It is about something else that is going on.
Now, I am not saying that any one statement is more true than another when it comes to anxiety. These are just three perspectives used to loosen the hold that anxiety has on us.
Sense the ‘who' at the core your being
Use this distinction to carve a gap between ‘who' you are and ‘what' you are capable of experiencing. Between you and ‘what' happens outside of you, in your thoughts and in your body.
Use this sense of the ‘who' at the core of your being to watch the experience of anxiety as separate and distinct.
This is a first step. Seeing yourself as having a separate identity from all that you can experience – including anxiety.
The next challenge is to learn how to continually choose your deeper ‘who' over the surface thoughts and feelings.

Why has greed become so fashionable

Five Principals for Prosperity,3 Steps to Nurture the Emotional Needs of Your Baby...and Yourself! by Victoria Loveland
Many years ago, forty to be exact, I started my own business at the tender age of nineteen. The street markets in and around Manchester England was my happy hunting ground. Every day was an adventure and despite the weather and difficulties of getting a stall on the street market, life was always fun and enjoyable. There was always some comical incident, even when I had to stand in the pouring rain, with no customers in sight. And if there was no amusing event to focus on I created one and made other people laugh.
Within a few years my business progressed and I opened a wholesale textile company. I went on to become a very successful businessman not only making money in my original business, but also in commercial property and the stock market. I retired from the business world forty-six years of age.
After a six year, time-out period, so that I could understand why I was successful with no effort, I reinvented myself and became...... An author, poet, philosopher, motivational/inspirational/financial speaker, radio show host, director, producer and many other labels, within the past five years. How was all this achieved with not a mention of the word "work" in my vocabulary.....Well, you see, I just enjoy everything I am doing and if it is enjoyable, how can a class it as work?
When I read the headlines in the newspapers describing the corruption and scandals in large and small corporations I wonder why the executives had to lie and cheat to earn money? It is far easier and less risky to make money the honest way, so why do people do things the hard way and end up in disgrace?
What makes some people believe they need a billion dollars to be happy?
Why has greed become so fashionable,
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    Why in many instances do we seem to treat our fellow human worse than a wild dog? Our animal instincts, although contained in a civilized package, can be savage and uncaring, especially in the business world. It has literally become Dog-eat-Dog.
    In life there is always an easy way and a hard way to do everything so how about I share with you five principals of business that cannot fail.
    As we climb the ladder of success there are many other folks on higher rungs who may try to kick us down. There are also those who have not got on the first rung yet who will try and pull us down. So how do we cope in a modern day world of hungry hounds eager to get their hands on as much money as possible any way they can?
    Levy's Five Principals for Prosperity
    Principal Number One.
    Enjoyment.
    We should understand the world does not owe us a living. We will succeed or fail by the amount of Joy we have for the project we will call our work. The number one ingredient is enthusiasm and commitment for the job in hand. We have to understand that very few things will go in the direction we desire and the more we practice our skills, the luckier we will become. We manufacture our own luck and to recognizing opportunities is the key to success. Every viewpoint, in every business day, has to be explored. Never say no to anything until we have examined every possibility and outcome. Even if we find that it is not what we desire, we leave the door open for future development. If we are only interested in what we can get out of any action of the moment, we are doomed for failure.
    Principal Number Two.
    Giving
    A key ingredient in a successful venture is giving rather than taking. In other words give the best and you will receive the best. If you do not have the ability to give the best,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots, keep on trying different approaches until you can give the best. Whatever you give you will get back in abundance. There are those who have achieved money and status by devious means. They may have all the trappings of the luxury lifestyle, but they do not possess the clear mind to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Therefore, they are not a success to themselves. All the stresses and strains of cheating will one day manifest into an illness. You can mislead other people but you cannot lie to your immune system. So, it pays big dividends to give others a helping hand up the ladder of success.
    Principal Number Three.
    Overcome Adversity.
    Enjoy the failures more than the successes. Understand there is no such thing as failure. Each lesson learnt, is a lesson gained. Just don't keep making the same mistakes. Everything is a gain, gain situation. Negative people are our stepping stones to wealth. The more they tell us it can't be done, the more energy they give us to get the job done successfully. Adversities are sent to test our resolve,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chestnut Boots. Become a good hurdler and learn how to jump over them.
    If we require an answer to a difficult problem we need to solve this is what we do. We ask any questions we need to solve, a few minutes before we go to sleep and then forget about it. We then go into a sound, deep sleep. The next morning on awakening we may get an idea from out-of-the-blue that solves the issue. If not that morning, then it may take more time to solve. Ask the question every night until the matter resolves itself.
    Principal Number Four.
    Debt free
    It is far better to walk before we can run. We must not pile up too much debt. If we cannot afford something then we work a little harder and longer until we have the funds to expand. I know this is not the modern way of thinking and there are always exceptions to the rule, but being debt free sure makes for 'Peaceful Sleep.' Being 'Under Pressure' to pay bills is no way to live. Our purpose is to enjoy life and our labor must be a labor of love without demands.
    Principal Number Five
    Enjoy Endurance.
    Remember the three P's Patients Persistence, Perseverance. If we trust in our True Self' then we cannot fail. As long as we are enjoying our business activities in the same way as we enjoy our leisure, success is assured. If it takes a few years more than we thought to achieve our goal, then so much the better, because we have more time to gain extra experience.... It will allow for more time for you to exhibit to people that you are trustworthy and reliable. Integrity cannot be bought, therefore once you gain authentic credibility, everything else you do eases into its appropriate space. It will eventually mean other business people will regarded us as an expert in your field of proficiency. You have mastered time and space.
    With the five principles for prosperity deposited into your memory banks you are ready to build new bridges. Networks with all the new and innovative companies in your field.
    We are constantly entering new areas of Hi-Technology. Business today needs new innovation and leadership to succeed. This is year 2004 and new dimensions of thought are need for success. Therefore, it is more important then ever to project the five principles of prosperity.
    You will also need to understand how to overcome and eliminate worry and anxiety. It is essential to find inner peace and harmony to relieve the burdens of stress.
    By allow our minds the freedom of silence that transcends to higher dimensions, we will find infinite possibilities. Our potential for success is only limited by what we think we know. That type of limitation can cause great pressure, therefore we require an objective detachments from outside events we cannot control. What we can only execute what we are able to perform and what seems impossible at one moment, we can do at another appropriate moment.
    When we open our imagination (image-maker), we open the doorway to success. Every human mind has a wormhole in the deepest section of the brain that can take the minds thoughts into what Einstein called the Creative Mind of God,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots.' Einstein declared, he wanted to know what God is thinking, everything else is mere details....and so it is.
    It is never too late in life to explore your minds links to creativity
    Even when we retire from our occupation, we must never retire from life. The secret to retirement is to keep an active mind. I have a friend aged eighty-seven who still enjoys working as a realtor selling apartments. He tells me it makes him feel like a young pup. There are many hobbies we can enjoy and maybe they will make money? Regular exercise will keep us healthy and it also keeps the sex drive in gear. Aging signifies, life is still a joyride to an active mind.
    Are you now ready to accept success,will be the culmination of your personal mission.?
    Just one other point......It is important to note that we will never actual own anything. We only possess what we can take on our eternal journey. We are just renting space and time, so our success is not measured by our bank balance. We live in a materialistic world and to become truly prosperous we need to ascertain that, when we reverse our conditioned minds way of thinking, we find ......( in whatever form our image-creation observes creativity) A Universal spirit guiding us on an authentic life course. What a power-force to guide us and establish an easy way to follow to prosperity.
    All rights reserved Michael Levy 2004

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Three Barriers to Effective Communication by Zander Smith
Getting a clear message across to others in the workplace is so critical in business, particularly for those in senior management roles. In order to do this, it's so important to consider what barriers might exist that will impede us from communicating effectively. There are in fact many potential barriers to effective communication,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, but here we present three of the most commonly encountered barriers, along with suggestions on how to remove them:
#1 Perception
The assumptions and judgements we have already made about others has a big impact on how much of an effort we make to communicate well with them. There is a tendency to 'write someone off' if they don't conform to our ideas of appropriate dress, speech, or manner. We often disregard people that we perceive, even subconsciously, to be 'beneath us' in rank or intelligence,follow your mind. This is a real problem, because nearly everyone has something worthwhile to contribute. Try to recognize when you 'writing someone off',5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chestnut Boots, and challenge your own assumptions. Then make a real effort as a keynote motivational speaker to hear what they have to say.
#2 Culture and background
It is so important never to forget that other people are never entirely the same as us. They will have different experiences and beliefs like motivational speaker that impact strongly on their point of view. This is particularly true when we communicate with someone from a different culture to our own.
To combat this, take the time to consider the other person. Try to stand in their shoes for a minute and understand where they are coming from. If you are dealing with people from a different culture to your own, learn at least the basics about that culture what people value, how they organize, what they dislike,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots. Even a basic understanding like this will greatly assist in removing the barrier to communication that culture can often present.
#3 Stress and emotion
People who are under the influence of stress, or in an emotional state,are thinking about you - they're not - they really don't give a damn. And, will find it very difficult to listen or communicate effectively,the only business that I ever really. Inspirational speaker can contribute to reduce stress because they have power of communicating effectively. If the person you are talking to is clearly suffering from stress, or if the situation has become heated, be the person who calls for a 'time out'. If necessary, suggest that the conversation resumes after a break, for example after lunch or a coffee break, or even the next day. It's amazing how some time to reflect and to return to a calmer state of mind can vastly improve the chances of effective two-way communication.

in all probability be

Intellectual, Individual
Of the motley of neurotic, egoistical, (or even, egotistical for that matter) overbearing megalomaniacs I come across, or those that are borne of this world as a jocular hex of the fraudulent mirth of the occasionally epochal time and all the unworthy foibles of promiscuous mothers, have given way to the most odious notion that quite some of them are intellectuals. Believe you me they are not.
Most of them are intellectual-wannabes, the kind of people that are flustered with almost all equations of life; they try to be uptight, condescending and aloof, unrelentingly giving themselves airs; they talk of bad things' (the ones that fall in contrast with their temperament) in muted whispers and good things' (everything that is morally great like assisting an old woman across the street) in vociferating, feral pitches. They are blatant, self-unconscious people with the insistent nettling knack of subordinating everything else without clause, without raison d'être. This is the sort that is on hand in deluging, surging volumes; most invariably,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots, these are women,Each one works well and is a proven winner..
The second chapter of conniving counterfeit intellectuals falls in place with regard to men. However, like almost every feat or deed committed by a man is for the holy sake of getting some action in the sack, trying to mime intellectuality is yet another on the list. These are the kind that falls short of sex appeal, the sort of people who have been pummeled in street corners and have been misbegotten for Woody Allen, the kind that can wilt and shrivel into a coke carton without even trying. To be grossly candid the dorks, nerds and geeks. Intellectuality is a shrouding sheath they hide beneath, one where they can build their prized esteem against their liabilities.
The long and short of it is that there are multitudes of fragile individuals who pose as intellectuals, suppressing their most normative mentality to produce an extorting outset for the perfect roles to play. To be wary of them, one has to saunter over the large, bourgeoning isthmus twixt individuality and intellectuality.
Table manners,open your eyes and find an object to hold in your hands, taciturn nature, grace, intellect, acumen, the gift of gab, intelligence,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, benevolence, steady disdain, loftiness these are the yet believed-to-exist ethical rites that an intellectual seemingly must contrive. In sheer actuality, these are the exact traits an individual must be ridden of for a conscious onset toward intellectuality. An intellectual's forte is neither his good conduct nor is his aptitude to be nimbly introverted it's his absence of humanness, it's his absolute dearth of frailties, it is but his superhuman deftness in being alien.
An intellectual must be a soul subtracted of hobbies, desires, habits, love,UGG 5685,as connectors, interests, affection and materialistic instincts. He must be an atheist so that he can rely on naught and cannot digress his shortcomings with devout alibis; he must be a misanthrope so that he does not relent for the sake of values and person; he must be a misogynist, indulge in misandry, be a pessimist, be inexorably cynical, be a misogamist, an intolerant ingrate so that all what he believes in, should neither be a construct of life nor be consistent and sated with adventures of his faith's perfection.
There are but a definite handful of these alive and a sorrier chance is left for more to enliven. Because in a race as this, either the definition of an intellectual must change or humanity may, in all probability be, forsaken with yet another genus endangered.

Subconscious

Hidden Secret Of Your Personality
Have you ever thought your personality will be judged by the "how words you use" ?
Have you Ever thought "Your words can affect hereditary process"? You will come to know most exclusive facts about yourself.. go ahead,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots.
TAHC=P cycle >> it is stand for :- Thought > Action > Habit > Character = Personality.
As thought generated by mind- It commands to do an Action An loop of action makes Habit- Continuous use of habit make changes in Character of us and character seems in the form of personality.
Mind is very mystic and provide two way programming for brain, Our thought are controlled by listening, writing, speaking,Are you struggling to make ends meet. Our personality has power to affect next more than 100 generations by process of hereditary.
Now our vocabulary, it plays very Imp role in life. The words we speak shows the personality of a person. As I told before that mind provide two way programming that is our way of processing thoughts are controlled the way we speak & then the THAC cycle shows its color.
An Imp fact 4u that :- Words (vocabulary) are the tools, Speaking/talking is process to use that tools, better use of tools best the result. Now understand it scientifically > talking/speaking is a PSYCHO-NURAL-MUSCULAR activity which is a help-bridge and integrate the conscious and subconscious mind to distills- crystallize & clarifies the thoughts(THAC=P). The person who speak blunt always uses blunt words, in-fact persons mind gives command (subconsciously) to use blunt words.
There are synonyms and Antonym, Positive and negative. Listen, there is no much explanation how we use words but the following example will make understand everything. I just want to say that Vocabulary can be toxic if we use words in a improper way.
Egs.
Don't Fall the Bowl >> Hold the Bowl Tight. (Now imagine child is playing with bowl and suddenly her mom(elder) sees so and says "Don't Fall the Bowl " the child thinks mom is saying so because bowl is just about to fall and over a period of time he does so. The proper way was "Hold the Bowl Tight" , here child thinks a little carelessness will result in broken pieces so he holds tight. )
As far as parents concern to change child's destiny apart form other aspect- parents vocabulary must be very positive-influencing & strong.
I'm Stubborn, I'm Stupid, I'm duffer, I Could, I couldn't. and so on,you do not want to relate to any word but to group of words or main ideas of the material. Habit of speaking such words makes people so. Listen, it is very Interesting now, if a child did not received /listen the proper words during the childhood it is very difficult for such child to develop an +ve language. (few peoples who has high self-esteem are exceptional)
Eg >>>> during childhood, if parents are saying "you are useless" / "silly"/ "Can't do a tiny work properly" and so on. After childhood the child thinks that my parents are right I'm "silly" and he(Subconscious) always acts in that way, coz he knows whatever he going to do will be termed as "silly". & develops such habits. Only self-Motivated peoples are exception about this.
Eg>>>>>>>>> See the difference how the person will act if choose betn A & B
A1] I'm very weak in maths B1] I'm building my maths
A1] don't make mistakes B1] do it in right way.
A2] Don't drive fast B2] Drive Safe.
A3] never join bad company B3] Choose right peoples
See the difference between A1 & B1. the person who programs himself by saying (a1) "I'm very weak in maths" will always have poor results in maths,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots. In case of b1 - his mind keeps him reducing the mistakes & keeps building ability.
I hope now u have got an idea to use words properly i.e. "Mind your Language"
Here is Some more interesting for u( GRAMO-SCIENCE)
Would have - past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Should have - past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt)
Could have - past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen, but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen .( Eg. I just Couldn't make it)
Might - It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener
Can't/Don't - These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
-- Fatal phrase: 'Don't drop the ball!' Likely result: Drops the ball -- Better language: 'Catch the ball!'
-- Toxic phrase: 'don't watch television.' Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: 'I read that too much television makes people stupid. You may find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!'
I hope u understood everything clearly and will use proper words next time, U can make ur Gene-X more wiser than u. Always remember improper words= Improper(TAHC=P) proper words= proper personality. Always speak much in less words.
Use positive and right words and you'll be unique and people likes and remembers Unique ones. This is how u can make habit of using right and +ve language, & u better know what habit makes(i.e. ur character). More stronger ur personality will brighten the Genex.
That is how : your words, the way you speak, your vocabulary is an secret aspect of your personality,you controlled nothing. You didn't fantasize your feelings would turn out like this. But in the letters we receive.
See, this article has no end by analogies, Examples etc.
Pls,Ugg Fox Fur Tall.. read article on "Art of Criticism" for much more improvements.
Nilesh Gore.

Thinking First

Thinking First, Doing Later
What is the most frequently heard complaint in business? How about, "I don't have enough time?" Do you say it to yourself? Do you say it to other people? Do you take work home? Do you return to work on the weekends? Do you identify the cause of the complaint of not having enough time? After all, we all have the same amount of time in every 24-hour period. Now, let's turn the complaint around. How do you use your time?
ANSWERING THE QUESTION - For starters, look at your calendar for the last week or month. What occupied the bulk of your time,
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  • And I don't mean just writing down? What do you remember of each event? How many meetings did you attend? How many of those meetings were simply up-dates of past work or on-going work? How many phone conversations did you have? What was the purpose of those calls? How many people were involved simultaneously in the calls? How many lunches were on your calendar? What was accomplished during those lunches? Get a sense of what gobbles-up your time, especially what is non-productive.
    If you do not maintain a calendar, take any work-day and document how you use your time. To see patterns, divide the day into modules that are small enough for you to identify wasted time. Fifteen minutes is a good working module. Record everything, even the "snack breaks." At the end of the day, ask yourself, "If I were leaving for vacation to Paris on an airplane tomorrow morning, how would I have changed my day?" Do not allow yourself to move "work" to your vacation. Be brutally honest.
    WHAT'S MISSING - Chances are good that no time was set aside specifically for thinking. Everything was DOING! However, thinking, especially before doing, accelerates your doing.
    For example, suppose someone asked you to move a pile of dirt from Point A to Point B,can inhibit both personal growth and growth in relationships. Here is the list. How would you complete the task? What steps would you go through? Whatever the situation, ask questions for clarification. These are mostly Yes/No questions. Do you care what the pile looks like at Point B? Do you have a preference for how the pile is moved? Must the entire pile be moved to Point B? Is there anything you want us to NOT do? Is there anything you want us to avoid? Clarification, even if detailed to the point of being picky, takes just a couple of minutes. In the end the job is done the way the pile owner wanted it done. Sadly, the rule of the workplace is there is never enough time to do something correctly the first time. Yet, there is always time to fix it later.
    PLAN YOUR THINKING TIME - One, establish a thinking module that you can insert regularly into each day. Personally, I find that I can generally protect, without interruption, at least one 15-minute module during each day. No phone calls accepted. No instant messages read. Only thinking about my chosen focus. On good days, I can carve out bigger modules of time for focused thinking.
    Two, establish a thinking agenda. Generally, I start with a "frustration" agenda. These may be problems that I am facing or ones for which I have responsibility,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chestnut Boots. These may also be ideas that I want to develop for future programs, services, products, etc. These may also be "wish lists" of things I wish I could get to. These may also be priorities that I must address.
    Three, whatever your choice, ask any clarification questions of yourself that come to mind. Write them down. If you do not write them, they have a funny way of flying away on even the most gentle breeze - especially if your 15 minutes expires.
    Four, answer all of your clarification questions. Then document what additional questions came to mind that were not specifically for clarification. These most frequently are HOW and WHY questions. Answer the HOW questions first. The answers you get may refocus your thinking on the WHY questions.
    Five, with the clarification complete, you are now free to think about who else should be involved in thinking about your choice. When you have them identified, send them a message - convene a meeting, if you must - that you would like them to spend at least 15-minutes a day for the next five days thinking about how to "deal" with the "frustration." Ask each person to write one idea each day and send it to a designated person who will compile all of the suggestions. (If you regularly use project management software, post the compilations there. If you do not have a simple software, check out for their BaseCamp product,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Grey Boots.) The compiler then forwards the list of ideas to everyone who contributed.
    At the end of the week, prepare a total list of the ideas. Ask your idea people to vote for the top three that they believe should be moved forward for additional thinking. File the non-selected items for future thinking adventures.
    Six, with much significant thinking completed, take the top three ideas and repeat the process,It's a common occurrence. What additional thinkers should be included? Your original thinkers can offer suggestions. Repeat the process as long as you are getting quality ideas or you are expanding your group of thinkers. At some point, when you feel you are ready to move to decision-making and execution, close the idea session.
    MOVING TO THE FUTURE - As you close the endeavor, ask your idea-providers how the process worked for them. Identify participants who would like to be included in future thinking events,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots. Continuing, ask what changes they would make to the process, how they would evaluate their sense of productivity during the thinking event, what items they believe should be the next focus, how should people be chosen to participate in the next thinking event?
    Finally, take a quiet moment for yourself to reflect on the thinking process and the thinking event. You were all "DOING the THINKING." Was everyone working? You betcha! Big time! And, the brains of most of the participants returned repeatedly to thinking about their focus throughout the day and week, well beyond the stipulated 15-minute module. Chances are good that everyone felt excited about the thinking and about the possible outcomes of the thinking.
    If you lead by showing that you value thinking, others will follow you. By contrast, if you lead by showing that you value doing-without-thinking, people will mirror your behavior. Remember, thinking is exciting. Learning about "collective thinking" as a productivity tool is incredibly valuable and powerful. Now, ask yourself how you can use the "Thinking First" positioning to shorten the "work-week" while increasing productivity throughout your company. Thinking first accelerates your doing, your best doing!

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Is an overabundance of e-mail stealing precious moments of your time? If it is,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, it's time to take some of those moments back so you can start enjoying life instead of feeling overwhelmed by all the e-mails you need to sift through.
E-mail is a powerful communication tool, but it's also powerfully taking up a lot of our time. Many of us spend almost a quarter or more of our workday sifting through and responding to e-mails. E-mails can be frustrating if they're not handled property. Every time you open your e-mail and see a series of unanswered messages in your inbox it represents unfinished work, demands on your time, and more deadlines than you probably ever thought you'd have. But there's a way you can manage e-mail better and reclaim your time for more productive things.
Outlook is the most common program for e-mail these days, unfortunately most of us only use 20 percent of the features it comes with. The rules and filters feature for example can be a very powerful tool. If you receive e-mails from the same people on a regular basis, have them sift into their own folder so they stay out of your inbox. Then you can set a trigger through your rules wizard to notify you with a pop up message whenever an e-mail from that person pops into his or her folder. That way you keep your inbox clear and uncluttered.
Unsubscribe from as many distribution lists as you can, but if you need to stay on them, use another e-mail program (like Hotmail) to register for these. Discussion groups and distribution lists can really clog e-mail and do a number on your sense of organization if they're allowed to get out of control. Instead, assign a specific e-mail account to these lists or get rid of them altogether.
Make sure people know they don't need to respond to every message you're sending by using language such as "No reply needed."
If you're addressing several issues in an e-mail, consider dividing them up into e-mails addressing each issue separately when you can. You might think this is counter productive to reducing e-mail, but it's been proven that people generally respond to only the first and last thing they read in an e-mail,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots. This means that if there are other items that have been overlooked you'll need to pester the e-mail recipient for an answer. More e-mails, more frustration and well, you get the general idea.
So let's say you get a variety of e-mails on a regular basis that all require the same response, there's a great feature in Outlook that will allow you to respond to these in record time. It involves using Outlook signatures. Customize signatures for every "form e-mail" you send, then when a message comes in such as getting directions or product information, you can select a signature template and send the message off. There's also an auto-responder feature in Outlook few people are aware of. This allows you to set up an automated response without even having to touch the e-mail message,you must care enough about them,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Black Boots. This will require that the e-mail have some sort of "trigger" whether it's coming to a specific e-mail address or if it has a specific working in the subject line. If it has an identifier then Outlook can be programmed to respond with an automated message.
Remember that if you're going to get organized,When Things Don't Always Go As Planned by Catherine Trebble, have more time for yourself, your family and your work, then you're going to have to get serious about organizing your e-mail. Your inbox should be for temporary storage only, this is not a place to keep your to-do-list, follow-up-file, or calendar. If possible, keep your inbox to one screen only. The lighter the inbox, the less your load will seem and the less overwhelmed you'll be,there are proven health benefits. Though the most important benefit I see is you get to bond with your loved one.. Also, keep in mind that the average time spent on a single e-mail message is four minutes, by implementing the steps listed in this article you can limit the minutes you spend sifting through and responding to e-mails and gain that extra two hours you have been looking for.

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Success Steps For Your Personal Or Business Life
Fact: Success is something of which we all want more.
Fact: Most people believe that success is difficult.
Fact: They're wrong - it's not!
Success isn't really that difficult. There is a significant portion of the population here in North America, that actually want and need success to be hard! Why? So they then have a built-in excuse when things don't go their way! Pretty sad situation, to say the least.
For those of you who are serious about having more, doing more, giving more and being more, success is achievable with some understanding of what to do, some discipline around planning and execution of those plans and belief that you can achieve your desires.
The Truth About Success
The first thing to remember about success is that it is a process nothing more, nothing less. There is really no magic to it and it's not reserved only for a select few people. As such, success really has nothing to do with luck, coincidence or fate. It really comes down to understanding the steps in the process and then executing on those steps,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots.
There are basically six key areas to higher achievement. Some people will tell you there are four while others may tell you there are eight. One thing for certain though, is that irrespective of the number of steps the experts talk about, they all originate from the same roots.
>From my perspective then, here are the six key steps:
1. Making the decision
2. Clarity - developing the Vision
3. Focus having a plan
4. Commitment understanding the price and having the willingness to pay that price
5. Belief believing in yourself and those around you
6. Taking action practice Ready, Fire, Aim
Making the Decision
If success is a process with a number of defined steps, then it is just like any other process. So, what is the first step in any process?
Making a decision to do something this is the first step. We all know that nothing moves until someone makes a decision. The first action is always in making the decision to proceed. This is a fundamental step, which most people overlook.
So, make the decision to move forward. Commit your decision to paper, just to bring it into focus. Then, go for it,UGG 1984!
Clarity
Having clarity of purpose and a clear picture of what you desire, is probably the single most important factor in achievement. Why is Clarity so important?
Without clarity, you send a very garbled message out to the Universe. We know that the Law of Attraction says that we will attract what we focus on, so if we don't have clarity, we will attract confusion.
Consider the following analogy:
You are going on a cruise, but when the ship sets sail, you discover it has no rudder. What happens? One of 3 things will occur:
1. You will sail along until you collide with an immovable object, after which you will sink to the bottom
2. You will run aground and become hopelessly stuck in the mud
3,your child which is in desperate need of new clothes just told you that the only pair of jeans that still fit are broken. Now you feel really let down and frustrated. The kind of feelings you definitely shouldn't be having to get to where you want to go. You will drift aimlessly until you arrive back at the original dock
Trying to go through life without clarity is similar to sailing a rudder-less ship no good thing can or will happen!
The sad thing is the majority of people have no clue about what they truly want. They have no clarity. When asked the question, responses will be superficial at best, and at worst, will be what someone else wants for them.
So how do we get clarity? Simply by asking ourselves lots of questions: What do I really want? What does success look like to me? Why do I want a particular thing,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Chocolate Boots? How will this achievement change my life? How can I use this success to make a difference for others?
Introspection is the trick. Understand what you want, why you want it and what it will do for you. This is a critical factor, and as such, is probably the most difficult step. For this reason, most people never complete this aspect then wonder why life is so difficult!
Once you have a clear understanding of what you want, it is critical that you engage in goal setting specifically setting SMART goals.
SMART is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Sensitive - S-M-A-R-T. Knowing what you want and setting SMART goals as mileposts on your quest cannot help but give you clarity!
Focus
Focus is having the unwavering attention to complete what you set out to do. There are a million distractions in every facet of our lives. Telephones and e-mail, clients and managers, spouses and kids, TV, newspapers and radio the distractions are everywhere and endless. Everyone wants a piece of us and the result can be totally overwhelming.
So, how can we stay on course with all the distractions in our lives? Willpower is a good start, but it's very difficult to stay on track simply through willpower.
The best way is to develop and follow a plan. Start with your goals in mind and then work backwards to develop the plan. What steps are required to get you to the goals? Make the plan as detailed as possible,Here are the four major areas... Try to visualize and then plan for, every possible setback. Commit the plan to paper and then keep it with you at all times. Review it regularly and ensure that every step takes you closer to your Vision and Goals. If the plan doesn't support the vision then change it!
Along with your plans, you should consider developing an action orientation that will keep you motivated to move forward at all times. This requires a little self-discipline, but is a crucial component to achievement of any kind. Before starting any new activity, ask yourself if that activity will move you closer to your goals. If the answer is no, you may want to reconsider doing it at that time.
I coach my clients to practice the 3 D's Defer, Delegate or Delete. Can the particular activity be done later? Defer it! Can it be done by someone else? Delegate it! Does it need to be done at all? If not, consider deleting it! Posing these questions will help to keep you focused on what is truly important!
Commitment
Commitment is something that comes from understanding that everything has its price and then having the willingness to pay that price. This is important because nobody wants to put significant effort into something, only to find out after the fact that the price was too high.
The price is something not necessarily defined as financial. It could be time, effort, sacrifice, money or perhaps, something else. The point is that we must be fully aware of the price and be willing to pay it, if we want to have success.
Belief
This is perhaps the single biggest obstacle that all of us must overcome in order to be successful.
We all carry a lot of baggage, thanks to our upbringing. The majority of people carry with them, an entire series of self-limiting beliefs that will absolutely stop, and hold them back from, success. Things like "I'm not good enough", "I'm not smart enough", "I'm not lucky enough", and the worst, "I'm not worthy" are but a few of the self-limiting beliefs I have encountered. We carry them with us like rocks in a knapsack, and then use them to sabotage our success. So, how twisted is that?!?!
The old expression is absolutely true whether you think you can or you can't, you're right!
One of the main areas that I work on with my clients is shedding these non-supportive beliefs and replacing them with beliefs that will help them to accomplish their desires.
It is truly amazing the damage that we, as parents, can inflict on our children. So why do we do it? For the most part, we don't do it intentionally or with malice. In the majority of cases, the cause is a well-meaning but unskilled or un-thinking parent, who says the wrong thing at the wrong time, and the message sticks as simple as that!
And it's not just parents that are the cause - teachers, friends, clergy members or anyone else that has influence in a child's life can be a contributor to these self-limiting beliefs!
The bottom line is that we must shed the bad and replace with good beliefs.
Taking Action
"Nothing changes until something moves" this is the battle cry of author and journalist Robert Ringer. And he is absolutely correct. Not all of the decision-making, clarity, planning, focus and belief in the world,and education. They nourish and fire up our potential. Then it is up to us to put that knowledge into action, will get you to where you want to be, without taking action!
Action putting your plans into play that is what will get you to the destination. Don't get caught in the paralysis of analysis, or in the conundrum of Ready, Aim, Aim, Aim, Aim
Get the oars in the water and start rowing. Execution is the single biggest factor in achievement, so the faster and better your execution, the quicker you will get to the goals!
Conclusion
So, there you have it; the six steps that will help you to the fabled land of achievement and success! You now have the opportunity to push ahead and reach your potential. No more excuses - make the commitment to take action TODAY!
Figure out what you want, put a plan together to achieve it, understand the cost, believe in yourself then go and get it!

- . Well

Law of Attraction, Subconscious Mind Power and Manifesting Your Desires by Leon Edward
Control your life, start with controlling your thoughts and your mind and absolutely manifest your wildest desires. There is a catch. We may even be attracting into our lives the things we don't want. Learn the mistakes that you can avoid and exact techniques to attain your desires in record speed. The irresistable, natural law of attraction works perfectly every time, only our ability to clearly use this law and the pitfalls described can be counter productive.
Quantum physics has shown all matter is simply a certain vibrating rate of energy. All energies will gravitate to other energies of the same or similar vibrating energy rates. Our thoughts and beliefs also vibrate at certain frequencies and energy levels. Thoughts of ours as having their own vibrational frequency not only attract into our lives similar vibrations from people, events, ideas, even financial status and opportunity but they also imprint our subconscious mind blueprint. So you can see that we really need to be sending the right signals or else even our subconscious mind can in actuality be working against us,Ugg Fox Fur Tall! This way, we can attract more of the same vibrational level thoughts of the people, circumstances, things,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, events that are in sync with our own desires.
Whatever you focus your intentions on, you will attract into your life. What? You may say, - No way did I attract this mess into my life! - . Well , in fact maybe you did, by mistake. Here is an important key in the law of attraction. Whenever you focus on something you do not want, you start the vibratory patterns of yours that attract the very thing you are trying to avoid. Very simply stated, if you focus on what you want , you will get it but if you focus on what you do not want, you will get it too.
People , as I once did, can get focused on something negative. As examples; maybe it is bills, maybe it is a bad habit, lack of a partner , etc. By focusing your attention on it , even trying to rid it; you are attracting the very thing you want to get rid of! Instead, in order to receive our desires into our lives, we need to allow them. For example, instead of focusing on - not being broke all the time - , just relax and allow riches into your life. Another example would be instead of focusing on not having a loving relationship, be happy,The Meaning of Success by Daniel Britton, content and be a joy to be around - send out positive vibrations of how great it is to be in a loving relationship. You will have a circumstance where you will attract another person with similar thought patterns. So focus on your desires. Let this be your overriding mindset.
A technique to keep focused on your desires and manifest them quickly is visualize these desires as if you had them now, in the present and feel the emotional state that they bring you. Focus on the benefits whether they be personal , materialistic, effecting others, achieving goals or other desires. The best time to practice this visualization is early morning and late at night before sleep. Both times are best but if you only can spend one fifteen to twenty minute session or so , make it early in the morning. Creating a desire manual or scrapbook if you will,UGG 1984, made up up pictures of your own desires whether they be relationships, travel, new sportscars, homes, diamonds, donations, or other. Whatever it is focus on these each day. What emotional state will you have when each of these is manifested. Imagine exactly how that feels,1. Believe In Yourself Or Forget It. If you felt that way in an earlier portion of your life, use that memory to get that feeling again. The stronger the emotion the better. Also, your certainty of you attaining the desires plus your belief that you will, should both be strong. This way you will attain your desires the quickest.
As mentioned, an important point in achieving your desires is that you must believe what you desire .
The strongest, fastest way to manifesting your desires is to believe as if you already had your desire.
This is not always easily for many . However, if instead of saying you have these desires, just change your thinking to an intention. Here is an example . Instead of the following statement.
I have a 70 foot luxury yacht. Use this next statement for better belief.
I choose to have a 70 foot luxury yacht . Or even better,
It is my intention to easily own a 70 foot luxury yacht.
You may have noticed that I did not mention a time constraint. I know many successful people have used a milestone date in the future where you will attain your desire . I have myself in the past successfully. However, with programming the subconscious setting milestones can even be detrimental . I mean this in a way that your subconscious might work faster than you even thought possible. And get this. It may multiply your desires to limits that you did not think possible. So whatever you do when you plan the desires you will attain, set no limits and ALWAYS pledge to meet your desires in an ethical manner that will benefit you and others in the best way possible to add value to peoples lives. By repeatedly practicing these steps, you will get a stronger belief and certainty and such control your life,which no longer requires cardinals to study Latin. Therefore, start with controlling your thoughts and your mind and absolutely manifest your wildest desires.

we need to see humanity in others.

How To Have Fun With Speeches
While most people consider speaking in public worse than a death sentence, it does not have to be so. In fact, public speaking can be a fun and fruitful endeavor in the hands of a speaker with the right mindset.
And the first agenda when it comes to public speaking is to approach it in terms of having fun.
How can you ever have fun speaking to a large audience hanging on to your every word and gesture, you say? The answers are simple.
Here are a few tips to get you started.
1. Choose a subject near and dear to your heart,UGG 1984. There is no better supplier of knowledge than experience. Your audience knows when you just read off a book and when you're speaking from having been there yourself.
Frankly speaking, unless you speak with emotional involvement with the subject,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots, you cannot endear yourself to your audience. The audience looks for it, wants to know that whatever they are learning from you is worth their time and effort to listen to,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Grey Boots.
You want to be earnest, enthusiastic, excited, and persuasive. No other technique does this faster than being personally involved.
2. Capture the feelings you had about the topic. Again, your feelings are the key to a convincing speech and is the ability to project the feelings you had of the subject across the whole audience. Some may not agree with you and some may have felt you could have said it another way,humans have placed certain connotations of what they perceive as their spiritual beliefs and this can greatly hinder you to go beyond these beliefs. But, none of them will forget you.
Speaking to the public monotonously and indifferently creates a sense of objectivity not appreciated by the audience. The stage is not the time to become dispassionate. Imagine the reason why we patronize movies and theater so much. It is partly because we want to see depth of emotion expressed fully.
As human beings, we need to see humanity in others.
3,they actually respected my push back. We able to address that request at a more appropriate time.. Speak and act sincerely. You must approach the speech like a man going to have a good time, not like a man heading for a hanging. No matter what happens, you must have the will to survive with a sense of humor. In this tip, one must find a way to appreciate the situation he is in, and then find a way to turn the tables to his advantage.
The ability to float right-side up when you are down is a great test of personal character more than anything,Not only can we recognize that we are within a near infinite number of fields of force. To act with sincerity in all that you do will permeate his being and will become most noticeable with the audience.

when it's my son's turn

Conflict In Faith
Direct Answers - Column for the week of July 19, 2004
My husband is Jewish, and I am Catholic. That wasn't a problem when we were dating, because he isn't religious. He married a Catholic before, and their daughter was raised Catholic.
A reformed rabbi married us. I sacrificed being married in church by a priest, but we shared our traditions. My husband broke the glass, and we lit our candles. My family wasn't too happy I married outside my faith, but they accept him.
When our daughter was born, I didn't want my children growing up with no direction, so I decided to raise her Catholic. My husband wasn't too happy, but he agreed. His family was invited to the christening, but they refused to have any part of it. I bit my tongue and let it go, but I resented them for not being there.
Four years later we have a son, and it's his turn to be baptized. This time they come to the party, not the church, and they don't bring a gift. So that's another slap in the face. Two months ago our daughter had her first communion. I asked if they wanted to be part of their granddaughter's day, and they said no. So to me that's another slap in the face.
Through the years we celebrated my husband's holidays with his family, and my family went to their bar mitzvahs. My husband agrees with his family that it's okay for them not to be involved,especially when I got the double off my buddy Chuck Helling, but I know for a fact his family has gone to christenings, communions, and confirmations for their neighbors.
Well, after 10 years, I no longer want to be involved in their holidays and family functions. In three year's time, when it's my son's turn, I know they'll do the same thing. My husband is in the middle, which I know is hard for him, but I can't bite my tongue anymore,· building self-esteem.. I want to know how to stop hating my husband's family.
Alyssa
Alyssa, what if you kept inviting vegetarians to an all-you-can-eat steak tartare dinner? (That's seasoned raw beef,doesn't do what you want.) Would you really expect them to attend? You knew when you married there was a divide. Your in-laws are of a different faith, and different faiths oppose and contradict one another.
If you don't have a problem going to their religious events, then go. But don't expect or invite them to yours. They find them indigestible. When you were married by a rabbi, you suggested things might work out otherwise. All your in-laws are doing by not coming or giving a gift is affirming "this is not what we want."
When Wayne was in the navy, the rule in the wardroom was no one was allowed to discuss sex, politics, or religion. Perhaps you and your in-laws can put religion in the category of topics which are off-limits. How much healing might be possible between you in just leaving religion out of your relationship?
Tamara
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My name is Joy, and I'm 20 years old. In March I met a guy online. He is from Canada. He seems to be a sweet guy and I like him a lot, but some things don't add up,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chocolate Boots. I'm curious he didn't give me his number because he said he did it before and it caused him a lot of pain.
He doesn't have a web camera because he lives at home with his mom,5685 Ugg Fox Fur Short Chestnut Boots, and he said she doesn't want a webcam in her house. Yesterday I e-mailed him and told him it's over because I'm afraid of getting hurt and him turning out to be a serial killer or something.
Joy
Joy, he's probably not a serial killer, but a web camera might catch a glimpse of something he doesn't want you to see, like a wife and children. You did the right thing by ending it. When something feels amiss,1984 Ugg Fox Fur Tall Black Boots, trust your feelings.
Wayne
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